Saturday, July 15, 2006

Wanna find your relative…Good luck!!!


You grow up, you study, work…boy meet girl and before you know it you start to talk about the M-Word…Marriage…and it is, on this as I have just returned from my cousin Camilla’s wedding to Dana that I wish to make my next point.

I have no idea what is going on…I thought, that when you get married the wife would take the husbands surname. Is this sexist or is it a custom we have kept as we go along???…Well I think it is proper and not sexist in any way…In the old days it was confusing in Scandinavian Viking customs, as the son would take the name of the fathers first name added by son or daugher...

Let me explain before you grab the bottle of Scottish Highland Water known to man as Famous Grouse and start an argument with your wife…My father, the son of Erik got the surname Eriksson (Erik’s son) makes a lot of sense, but he decided to stick with the newfangled 1930's way of keeping the surname from his father rather than giving us sons, four of us, the name Bertilsson, the sons of Bertil, so with this we went on in life four sons, named Eriksson, and we were part of something, a family which has traced its roots back to 1756…

Enough of family tree business and background, here is what is getting my rag up… Having been to my cousins wedding, in Sweden, I was really pleased to hear that Cousin Camilla was taking the surname of her husband, now being the new Mrs Månsson. This is a tradition carried on by not just lovesick Swedes but also by any moderate sane person who decides to get married. However years ago we started to knock this system because women wanted to keep their identity, so names like Williams-Jones, Sorenson-Eriksson and Pratt-Blair was invented. I have no problem with this because if you want to work in media especially at the BBC you need more than a degree; you also need a surname like Street-Porter…

Now the world has gone mad…

I have two brothers which no longer cannot be introduced as Eriksson…One is married, took her surname the other one changed it by deed pole, this was after his girlfriend changed it by deed pole…follow that and still being sober, put the Grouse down...

What is society coming to…are we embarrassed about the name we were given, is it too common…are we embarrassed about our fathers or heritage, would it be easier of our names were more like Picasso, Ferrari or Pavarotti????

I do not think so…

I am proud of beeing an Eriksson even though my father might not be the known millionaire or be the Eriksson who got England kicked out of the World Cup, nor am I the guy who gets free mobile phones sent every month from SonyEricsson, but I stand tall and believe that tradition is stronger that having an “unusual” surname.

The funny thing is that coming from a family of just boys out of eight grandchildren only two of them are boys, so if my calculation is correct, may the girls carry the name or in time Eriksson will die out, but perhaps I am lucky it might be so unusual that it will be fashion again and they would want to change it back….

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